Mom on Dating Advice

My poor mother has had to 'put up' with everything between the two of us.  Stacey never dated in HS and when she did, the guy introduced her around the entire night as "my b***h".  Nice.  She didn't really date in college.  She had her desperate moments and her heartbreaking longing for another moments.  She finally wore makeup because she believed that was the only way to get someone to love her.  Finally, she met someone and then they eloped- poor mom!

Next, she had me and all my mess.  I dated EVERYONE in HS that you're never supposed to actually date.  I had the farmboy, bad boy, gothic boy, gay guy (x a few), a few abusers, and the too-old-for-your-comfort guy, just to name a few.  I was always getting in over my head.  Finally, when I got married, it was to someone my mother didn't like and we had 3 weddings.

What a mess.

So, mom and I were talking yesterday.  She had asked me if I was dating anybody.  I said yes, but I was trying so desperately hard not to get too attached to anyone.  My job is new, my financials are shaky, I'm considering moving again- it wouldn't be right for me to get too involved with anyone.  It would be just wrong.  There are just too many variables up in the air.

I sent her a few pics a few days ago.  She thought PD was the cutest.  She also threw me for a loop when she told me to quit dating altogether, kinda.

She asked how many times I had seen these boys, between all of them- it spans a few months and a handful of times (it really isn't that many- like 3).  When she knew I had seen them more than 3 times, she told me to end it.  When I asked 'why?', she said that if after 1-2 dates I didn't see them as marriage material and could envision myself married to him- then it was time to end it.

Really?

I married Steven after like or 2nd-4th date and we all know how that went.  Does anyone know for certain enough to 'cut someone out' after just two dates?  Dating is to get to know someone.  How can you possibly know someone after 1-2 dates?  I know that I'm not ready for a relationship and it would be wrong for me to be such a mess and enter one, but does that mean I shouldn't date anyone either?

Now she has me freaking out some.  Is being open and honest with the guy and telling them that I'm not ready for a relationship just not enough if I keep on dating?